In many households you will find adult children asking why their parent has changed. Their personalities have become different. Instead of mellowing into sweet old men/women they are showing anger and outbursts with tones we’ve not heard before. Recently, I heard a relative in a nursing home speak to one of the aides in a tone with words I couldn’t believe. I had never heard them speak to another human being like this let alone say the words. To be honest, it broke my heart.
Perhaps I shouldn’t have, but I scolded this relative and addressed their behavior as unacceptable and told them they must apologize. After some arguing they agreed they would. immediately, I went and found the aide and apologized profusely for my relatives behavior, asking them to forgive my relative and told them how sorry I was. They were gracious and accepted the apology.
I know people do ugly things out of fear. Fear of something can sometimes makes us feel angry. Let’s face it, being old and in a nursing home isn’t easy for some people. Becoming dependent on others when you’ve always been independent is in itself demeaning to some. To have to wait on others to tend to your needs when you use to tend to your needs immediately is degrading for some. For the elderly in a nursing home, they are aware this is their last stop before death. They are put here because they need round the clock assistance. They know they have come here to die.
Is it any wonder some of them have personality changes and become angry?